Feminism

Since this is SUCH a heated debate recently, with twitter wars with #killallmen extremist hashtags and #killallfeminists replies of (understandibly) angry and frustrated men, I thought I might as well be just one more person talking about this online and write a post on it to let you know some of my thoughts on the matter. 
Being a feminist, I spent a lot of time masking the term of how I felt about simply supporting women’s rights and opportunities. I wouldn’t tell people I’m a feminist.  The connotation of the word has grown into something ugly – something I needed to stop being afraid of and bring back the good of why I’m glad to actually be a feminist in the first place.
So I found a blog post a great opportunity to actually do away with some of the stereotypes me and all the other 'non-extrimist' feminists face, so here is what I am not:

• A man-hater.  I love men and have fantastic male friends and family. I have also encountered some really inspiring, decent men who think the way I do without labels.  To simply hate a man because he’s a man is no more outrageous than being a racist or a homophobic. That's just not my style.

• Defender of all women despite bad behaviour.  I can dislike women, and do not co-sign their bullshit if what they do hurts others.  Woman or not, if they are mean-spirited and go out of their way to sabotage, I have no use for them in my life and will even let them know it.

• A leach to the men in my life.  Just, no.  I don’t borrow money, and I don’t live off my any man's worth neither is that what I'm intending to do in my future. I highly value a financial independence and I am determined to work for it. If I will marry in the future I will make sure to sign a legal agreement with my husband should something happen to our marriage, that we exit with the belongings we brought in to the marriage and divide what we acquired together.  

• Masculine.  I’m not. I love to bake and cook and live independently. I don't wish to be anything like a man, and that I could pee standing up. I love to dress up, follow trends and wear make-up and jewelry, do my nails, dust on perfume etc..  Make no mistake, I am truly feminine and do these things without thought or resentment.

• Unattractive. This is something many men like to imagine when they hear of someone being a feminist. They will immediately assume that person is bitter and frustrated in life because they can't get a man (despite the fact that men as well can be feminists), which then is their explanation for why this person has become a feminist. I personally don't think most former feminists are unattractive and don't think of myself as absolutely horrendous looking (but you can judge for yourself). 

There is no doubt the term feminism has been hijacked to be a platform for women who crave power and feel a sense of entitlement, using figurative demasculinization as a weapon instead of using positivity and problem solving to help women who are seriously being discriminated, hurt, or imprisoned for simply being a woman and doing things that men have traditionally had the freedoms to do (or physically have no connection to such as taking a woman's right away to have an abortion). Many people in the western world believe feminism is an absolutely unnecessary movement especially here, where women and men are already about equal but they often forget that the western world is actually such a big role model to all the developing countries in which equality and women's rights are often still a big issue! 
People are too hung up on petty social customs that etiquette has influenced in our lives that include 'chivalry', manners, and other social expectations that are seen so skewed in women’s favours. This is not what feminism is about.  Feminism isn’t about how angry a woman is that a man opened a door for her.  Feminism is about preventing and supporting the rights women, who are entitled to such things as equal pay for the same job, the right to feel safe (especially in her own home), the right to education, the right to choose what she does with her own body, the opportunity to work in a field of her choice and to work in a safe harassment-free environment.
Those who are bitter about some equality that has progressed to favouritism, citing that it has become unfair towards men with things such as women’s-only fitness centres, or how some court systems favour single mothers over single fathers, you know what? – I’m with you! I am on your side when it comes to these silly rubrics that have seeped into the system to make people believe they don’t have a say and I encourage men and women to stand up to these things, just as I would encourage a woman, who feels her rights are taken away from her, to do so for the former things I mentioned.
Truth is, real feminism isn't evil and created to shame and dominate men although that is unfortunately how many people make it look or interpret it nowadays - It is to create a gender-equality favourably on a global spectrum and I hope that one day we can actually achieve that with not only women speaking up as feminists and a slightly less amount of men who fear they are going to lose their masculinity just because women will be treated equally. 

What are your opinions about modern-day feminism? 

xx ♡ Micky 


P.S. Thank you so much to all those who wished me better! 
I think it has really worked since I'm already feeling much stronger every day <3